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if a girl told you she wouldnt give you a BJ, would if put you off her?
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question is in the title really.....
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if she doesnt like things in her mouth...literally makes her heave
Pft, yeh they are! Just like him going down on me is a very important part of sex.
But if someone has major problems with it, well you can't help that.
i've done it once, was almost sick and have refused ever since.
with my ex he'd not done anything sexually with anyone so it wasnt a problem as he didnt know what he was missing out on but with the person i'm seeing now he will know what he is missing out on.
im just worried that it'll put him off me
You can do without blowjobs though during foreplay/sex.
may be you just had a bad first experience. perhaps if you try again you might not find it so bad...
Well you can do without it yeh but some guys actually like it and do want it sometimes!
to be honest i'm scared now! i'm 21 and feel like i should know what i'm doing (i know thats a stupid thing to feel)
i wish i'd done it with my ex...if i was shit atleast he wouldnt have known!
thats what i am hoping! i'm hoping that he will like me enough not to care!
Well he's not gona know you haven't done it before. Just suck on the end of it and lick it and use your hand at the same time - that way it doesn't have to go too far in.
or better yet... just be honest with him...
seriously dont do it if you don't like it, you know your own mind and im sure that'll be one of the things he likes about you
yeah maybe i'll tell him...obviously not right out but if the time comes.
i saw seeing someone for a few weeks and we fooled around and when he asked if i'd do it i just said no...he didnt seem to really care but i want to be able to do it!
And there's your answer right there. Do what Lipsy says, she seems to have had plenty of experience.
If you genuinely didn't want to do it, then he'd be a twat for it putting him off you, but since you want to, I'm sure he can help you get over your problems.
Like lipsy said, you don't need to be able to do deep throat. You can start by just licking round the head and getting a good rhythm and stuff and sort of build up till you feel a bit more confident. It'll also make him even more gagging for it (sex that is, not just a BJ)
End of the day though the usual stuff applies - if you don't want to do something then you shouldn't ever feel obliged to.
:yes: If you dont feel comfortable doing it then explain why, if he likes enough then he should understand. Any guy who throughs a strop over the fact I'm not prepared to give them a BJ can get stuffed.
I would imagine your previous experience has out you right off and its probably making it difficult if you do try, cos youre gonna be cautious and expecting something bad to happen - this is probably why its worth talking about it so that if you do try again your partner doesnt try and ram it down your throat
Which is possibly more information than I should give y'all
thats given me more comfort than anything else thats been said
If hes really bothered though then it just means hes not the one for you.
If he is half the guy you think he is, he will respect your wishes and put you at complete ease with it. If he gets pissed off then he ain't worth the price of cheese.