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Okay sorry this is quite depressing, have a funeral coming up
everyone is told to dress brightly or how he would have remembered you
but i want to be respectful though and what is acceptable and what isn't?
apart from the obvious like he would remember me probably in one of his or his mates t-shirts and french knickers but i hardly think that's suitable
everyone is told to dress brightly or how he would have remembered you
but i want to be respectful though and what is acceptable and what isn't?
apart from the obvious like he would remember me probably in one of his or his mates t-shirts and french knickers but i hardly think that's suitable
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I'm sure it would break the ice.
I would wear something black either skirt or top but then try and maybe a colored jacket or something. So you kind of look respectable in black but have tried to be a little different. I wouldn't go over the top with sparkles and short skirts etc.
Maybe ask some of your friends who will be going and ask what they are wearing..
Good luck :thumb:
In that case, I'd imagine you're going out for a meal with a brand spanking new boyfriend and his elderly (and very easily shockable) grandparents. That's the kind of look I'd go for. You want to look like you, but you also want to look smart and respectful, so lay off the miniskirts and plunging necklines.
I would feel very uncomfortable wearing brights to a funeral.
I'd go for neutral if you're not sure. Sounds a bit weird, but do you have anything that reminds you of him? Like an accessory or something he gave you (even if you carried it in your handbag or something?)
even if it's what they wanted?
But if you feel too uncomfortable with that, go for a compromise and wear something you feel is respectful, but with an added bit of colour somewhere.
:yes: That's the one.
Seriously, I've been to loads of funerals (you get that when you've sung in a church choir and been a server). Relatively few people now wear the full all over black mourning job. Whether it's in a church or not, go for what you'd wear to church, neat and tidy.
You can always wear the french knickers underneath!
For my friends there was a 'yellow' theme and everyone was given a daffodil - I wore a grey suit with a bright yellow shirt (had to borrow it from a friend!)
For my Dad's I wore a smart black suit with a bright orange top underneath - I looked very smart but with a splash of colour it gave me a warming feeling...
So yeah, like said before, I dressed as though I was going somewhere that I needed to look stunning, but respectable at the same time. Usually a black skirt and some high heels, with whatever top I decided was suitable. Speaking to other people sometimes helps. For the last funeral I went to, I'd had a tattoo done the day before, so wasn't going to wear my skirt incse it looked a bit disrespectful - fresh tattoo shining away on my leg. But the widow told me he would have loved that I'd finally been brave enough to have it, and convinced me to wear the skirt. And she was right. So I'd have a think about what they'd really love you to show up in.
if you dont feel comfy in bright clothes...just accessorise!
maybe wear black skirt/pants with a black top and wear brightly coloured beads, bangle, bag, maybe even belt
that come across as slightly rude....
she was asking for ideas on what to wear
she has been asked to wear bright colours so people have given suggestions on how to do it in an understated way
the family have requested bright things or how he would have remembered her, so unless she dresses in all black all the time, she wouldnt be adhering to that request by wearing an all dark outfit
Noone will be offended by someone wearing black to a funeral.
I`ll butt out now.