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Guy owes me £1,000, won't give it back
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I leant a guy from uni (not particularly a best mate or anything, just I'm a complete pushover who can't say no) £1,000 at the end of last year, he said he'd pay me back start of this year, was just having temporary cashflow problems. Well you guessed it he's not paid me back. He has now taken a year off uni for personal reasons so I can't see him in person. I can contact him on MSN/email only. I repeatedly tell him to pay me back, sometimes he says not right now he's out of cash still, he'll see what he can do and pay me back as soon as he can, and most emails he just ignores. What on earth can I do to reclaim it if I can't properly get hold of him? I'm now overdrawn and struggling.
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Do you know if he would actually have any money to pay you back?
Also may I ask why he needed it in the first place? a grand is a hell of a lot of money to lend to someone you don't sounds all that good mates with! :eek:
see if you can get his home address from the uni office, and send a letter to his parents telling the politely the situation.
or at least see if you can get a hold of his mobile / home phone number.
Not is he still has the e-mails/msn history where he has asked for the money back and the other guy has said he will pay back soon!
Don't know if he has the money, he's gone off the rails and spends a lot on ecstacy/coke these days.
Yes I deserve to be called "retarded". I am a complete pushover. If anyone asks for a favour, or asks anything, I don't know how to say no. Hence I always end up going to events/parties I don't really want to go to, always end up getting extra work on my desk in the office, etc. :no:
As for getting the money back, can you enlist the help of any mutual friends who would back you up? Alternatively i'm sure there will be some kind of advising service at your uni, worth checking it out...
if he doesnt respond you would need to consider making a county court claim against him. this would cost you £120, and you could either make a claim online, or you could go to your local county court and submit an N1 form. as you are on a low income you might be exempt from the court fee, and you would apply for exemption on form EX160A, but if you apply online you cant submit this form. if you win youd get the court costs back anyway. how successful youd be, i dont know.
To be honest I'd be doing my best to find out where the little cunt lives and making sure he pays it back, by intimation and force if I had to. Maybe not all in one go because often that simply isn't practical but I WOULD get it back - on cash or as posessions up to the value.
If you don't get it back don't be telling everybody what's happened either, else you'll look like a real soft touch and other people will try and take you for a ride.
Do you students union have any advisory or welfare service? Get in touch with them as they may help.
:yes: Fucking right mate, I hate people like that.
Make fucking sure you get it back dude, as Lipsy said, you've got msn conversations and emails from him admitting he owes you money, so use them against him. Use EVERYTHING against him and get your money back, that's alot of cash mate.
But Jesus Christ, what on Earth did he say to get you to give him a grand??!?!
I can't add much to what others have said regarding the debt. I recommend never lending or borrowing money if you can avoid it.
I suggest next time you go out, avoid buying rounds. I never get into buying rounds, you always end up either out of pocket or drinking much more than you usually would. Just say: "I'm a bit short on cash at the moment, I'll just get my own." I think buying rounds is silly.
Namaste got hit by a similar problem. I myself do get ripped off, but it's from my own family who beg and I find it really hard to say no. Especially when I have the cash and they get paid on Friday (this will be a Wednesday) and they need to get my mum a birthday present.
That was March, and I'm still £75 down :grump:
A bailiff company wouldn't act, because there would be no point. Bailiffs only have rights to enter the property if there is a CCJ in place, and this has been defaulted on. Without a defaulted CCJ all a debt collector can do is come and knock on the door and ask for the money really politely.
Even if he has no money, its worth pursuing a CCJ in the small claims track of the county court. Even if the court only orders him to pay £1 a month he will repay the debt, and if he misses one payment you can send the bailiffs round to enforce the debt. And most people don't have the sense to find out where they stand with bailiffs, so bailiffs do tend to get money. You could also get an Information Order against the debtor, which means he has to tell you where his savings are, and if he doesn't he will be sent to prison.
Have you learnt your lesson?
And if your 'friends' are taking advantage of your kindness then I think you should find some new people to hang out with. You can be nice without being a pushover - people will respect that much more. Best of luck.
Sorry, not feeling very helpful tonight.
Sue in the civil court or call the police. It's still theft.
I'd imagine the police would just tell you to persue the issue by other means, no doubt pointing towards the small claims court.
I don't think you could declare it as theft.
While it's looking obvious to us on here that he's lying he does keep saying "I'll give it you back soon mate" and that was his initial line too, so it'll be hard to prove he is intended to permenantly deprive the OP of it.
Back to OP, its an awful situation you've got yourself in, it may be one of those where you get nothing more than a learning experience back from it unfortunately.
I know a few years ago I leant one of my best mates £3000, but as soon as i asked for it back a couple of months later he gave it me back £1000 a time every other week so there was no issue.
As mates we regularly go to concerts and things and one of us will by a group of tickets and the rest pay back whenever we have it, recently i spent £150 on 5 tickets, gave them my mates and didnt ask for the money till the night, one of my mates hadnt got paid and just explained this, i didnt see him for a few weeks when i did he was the one to bring it up but mentioned he was going on holiday so would i mind waiting till his pay day afterwards so again it's not really an issue because i know exactly where i stand with it and he's being up front and honest with it all.
I suggest you only lend to people you can trust similarly in future, but i guess you've realised that now
its not theft. where the hell did you get that from?! - she gave him the money.
a small claims court could be the answer but it will cost you more money to pursue it. he is innocent until proven guilty, and if he doesn't have the money to pay back the court would only act as an intermediary perhaps suggesting he pays you £5 a week for example until he pays it all back in full. - pursuing it through the courts does not mean you will get the £1k back in one go even if you win. it could take him years to pay you back. but thats still one option you might consider.
if you've got financial problems now, go and see your students union / finance office who might be able to offer you some help financially if you are really struggling.
you've probably learned your lesson the hard way. don't be such a pushover in future. learn how to say 'fuck off' to people when you want to.