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Whats the best way to finish a rel?
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Title says it all really. But how if it has to be done do you usually go about it/what is the nicest way if you're on the receiving end of being broken up with.
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Or MSN.
Face to face is best I guess. However don't just say something like 'I'm sorry but I'm breaking up with you' then walk off as though nothing has happened.
Try to not do it whilst in a bad mood or upset.
ETA: http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/couples/relationshipissues/tacticsindumping might be of some help.
I wouldn't ever do it over the internet/phone even if it does mean I'm gonna end up driving a 100 mile round trip to see him.
Yeah with an ex I travelled to see him and THEN he broke up with me. 5 hours crying on a coach is not fun. Face to face is best and usually on his turf so he feels more comfortable.
I had an ex who dumped me by email!!!!!!! Then he changed his mind and a few days later, dumped me on the phone. I don't think a guy has dumped me in a worse possible way.
To the OP, I agree with Rach :yes:
lol, same ex innit
Actually, best breakup was with one girlfriend who things weren't working out with, my girlfriend took me aside one lunchtime at school and said we should just be friends and I laughed and said ok. However, the sting with that, was she had already been making moves onto my best friend, and didn't really spare any time (although we were v. amicable) as a 'grieving' period. Felt like it was a bit insensitive. But IME, people don't tend to wait anymore!
Suppose it's all swings and roundabouts though, another girl broke up with me, then her friend who had been desperate to get with me asked me out the next day . I have to say, (the best friend) is one of the partners I've had who I think back of most fondly and miss to an extent. Always get a *sigh * in my chest thinking back.
Honest.
Face to face.
:thumb:
:yes: I would say that honest is the most important thing on that list.
The best article I've read on how to do it kindly is from the Lovers Guide
Most guys seem to opt for the "just not bother, let them down" attitude, usually lasting several months. Wimps.
and timewasters......:( I could have been out with other blokes while I thought I was going out with you, you wimpy bastard!!!
doing it by text is worse. that seems to make guys go a bit crazy.
not that i would ever do such a thing
anyways, as has already been said, do it in person, and don't drag the meeting out before you begin. it's never going to be pleasant for them, but it can be clean, honest and genuine. don't soften it with platitudes you don't mean, either.
So basically straight to the point and don't let it drag on & on?
Seriously though, face to face is the only way to do it unless you're 16. That said, my ex of 3 years did it over the phone (she was on the other side of the world at the time - bitch).
That one was fun :yeees:.
Thats horrible. I would say chop the bastards balls off but you would have probably done that already.
Despite the two clues i am still no closer to finding out who this bloke is. I must have been out that night or something :chin:
that was how it was with me and my ex. relationship was going great, had no signs of any problems at all (well, there weren't any!) - then out of the sudden he finished with me because he wanted to be on his own. i sometimes think do i wish he'd mentioned anything to me before but then i think it wouldn't have made much difference - just would've been less of a shock.
definately do it face to face. any other way is a cowards way, imo.
Not Doomsday????
This guy was LONG before your time.
Lacy - the last time he got banned was when he suggested that he wanted to go to the last meet, if that helps (which would have been in October/November) .
Seriously, face to face is always best. It'll be a horrible shock no doubt, but if it needs to be done then so be it.
Oh!! :hyper: Makes me feel like a young whippersnapper now...:)